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New York, NY - In the beginning marriage is bliss, but for some the newlywed stage quickly fades away and is replaced with screaming and fighting. But, could the way you fight determine if your marriage is headed for splitsville? According to a new, long-term study published this week in the Journal of Marriage and Family, the answer is yes. According to AOL News, the study is one of the longest and most comprehensive research explorations of marital conflict to date, which used data from 373 couples collected over 16 years. The study, conducted at the University of Michigan, looked at how individual behaviors and mate interactions influenced the divorce rate and conflict style in the general context of gender and racial differences. The study determined that marriages that have one partner who tackles problems head-on with a mate who flees problems is the worst combination for marital success. The study’s lead author Kira Birditt said, “This pattern seems to have a damaging effect on the longevity of marriage. Spouses who deal with conflicts constructively may view their partners’ habit of withdrawing as a lack of investment in the relationship rather than an attempt to cool down.” The study also found that, “Relationships and the quality of relationships may be more central to women’s lives than they are to men… As a result, over the course of marriage, women may be more likely to recognize that withdrawing from conflict or using destructive strategies is neither effective nor beneficial,” said Birditt. Women are more likely to evolve and improve their “fighting tactics” as the relationship progressed, as men’s fighting style generally remained the same over time. A total of 46 percent of the 373 couples that participated in the survey ultimately divorced. By no means is marriage a “walk in the park;” it is something that is worked at everyday. But, if your marriage ultimately does not work, the divorce mediation experts at YS Mediation are on hand. If you or someone you know is separating or divorcing contact a New York City divorce attorney at YS Mediation for a private and confidential consultation.
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