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New York, NY (News) - Getting back into the dating scene after going through a grueling and heartbreaking divorce, not only takes a toll on your self esteem, it helps you realize what you want in life. You were just thrown back into the single world and now your questioning yourself on whether or not you know how to date after being married for so many years. Dating after divorce requires a whole different approach, because you likely have children to think about, and you have emotional scars from being burned by your ex. The Kansas City Star offered some tips on how to go about dating post divorce. · Know what you want in a relationship: You need to decide what you want in a relationship—do you want to get married again? Or is that out of the question? Only date people who are looking for the same thing in a relationship, otherwise you may just end up hurt, again. If you do want to get married again, use each relationship as a learning experience, and decide what you want in a marriage before rushing to the altar again. · Discuss big topics—on the first date: Religion, politics, money, and children should be topics you discuss on your first date, not your 20th date. In this stage of life you have established your worldly views, so you need to find someone who fits that. Don’t waste your time avoiding these important topics, figuring out your date’s views and opinions on these topics can help you decide if your date is worth the long haul. Money is usually the root of a majority of marital problems, so determining your date’s spending habits, income and debt can help weed out the unsuitable dates. But, you don’t need to ask this outright. Instead, just make some basic determinations based on the information your date has given you. · Have the courage to ask those big questions: Life is short, so ask what thinking. Marriage? Kids? Life goals? Religion? If your date is offended by the questions you’re asking, then don’t bother wasting your time, because they aren’t serious. · Protect your children, but see how your date reacts: Most family therapists will agree—don’t introduce your date to your children unless you’re serious. But, then again, you need to see how your date reacts and interacts with your kids before you get in too deep. If you are getting serious with someone, plan a play date in a public place, like a park, where your children won’t pay as much attention; and then gauge their reactions. · Sex: Chances are since you were married; you’re no longer holding your “V-Card.”You need to decide what is important to you—refraining from sex unless you’re in a serious commitment, or using it as a test to see if your relationship as a whole will work for you. Contact YS Mediation for a private consultation and take the first step into freedom from a typical, high cost divorce. Maintain your rights and independence.
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