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december
2010
Call 212-792-4040 for Divorce mediation services or visit YSMEDIATION.COM
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october
2010
New York, NY (News) - Getting back into the dating scene after going through a grueling and heartbreaking divorce, not only takes a toll on your self esteem, it helps you realize what you want in life. You were just thrown back into the single world and now your questioning yourself on whether or not you know how to date after being married for so many years. Dating after divorce requires a whole different approach, because you likely have children to think about, and you have emotional scars from being burned by your ex. The Kansas City Star offered some tips on how to go about dating post divorce. · Know what you want in a relationship: You need to decide what you want in a relationship—do you want to get married again? Or is that out of the question? Only date people who are looking for the same thing in a relationship, otherwise you may just end up hurt, again. If you do want to get married again, use each relationship as a learning experience, and decide what you want in a marriage before rushing to the altar again. · Discuss big topics—on the first date: Religion, politics, money, and children should be topics you discuss on your first date, not your 20th date. In this stage of life you have established your worldly views, so you need to find someone who fits that. Don’t waste your time avoiding these important topics, figuring out your date’s views and opinions on these topics can help you decide if your date is worth the long haul. Money is usually the root of a majority of marital problems, so determining your date’s spending habits, income and debt can help weed out the unsuitable dates. But, you don’t need to ask this outright. Instead, just make some basic determinations based on the information your date has given you. · Have the courage to ask those big questions: Life is short, so ask what thinking. Marriage? Kids? Life goals? Religion? If your date is offended by the questions you’re asking, then don’t bother wasting your time, because they aren’t serious. · Protect your children, but see how your date reacts: Most family therapists will agree—don’t introduce your date to your children unless you’re serious. But, then again, you need to see how your date reacts and interacts with your kids before you get in too deep. If you are getting serious with someone, plan a play date in a public place, like a park, where your children won’t pay as much attention; and then gauge their reactions. · Sex: Chances are since you were married; you’re no longer holding your “V-Card.”You need to decide what is important to you—refraining from sex unless you’re in a serious commitment, or using it as a test to see if your relationship as a whole will work for you. Contact YS Mediation for a private consultation and take the first step into freedom from a typical, high cost divorce. Maintain your rights and independence.
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october
2010
New York, NY - In the beginning marriage is bliss, but for some the newlywed stage quickly fades away and is replaced with screaming and fighting. But, could the way you fight determine if your marriage is headed for splitsville? According to a new, long-term study published this week in the Journal of Marriage and Family, the answer is yes. According to AOL News, the study is one of the longest and most comprehensive research explorations of marital conflict to date, which used data from 373 couples collected over 16 years. The study, conducted at the University of Michigan, looked at how individual behaviors and mate interactions influenced the divorce rate and conflict style in the general context of gender and racial differences. The study determined that marriages that have one partner who tackles problems head-on with a mate who flees problems is the worst combination for marital success. The study’s lead author Kira Birditt said, “This pattern seems to have a damaging effect on the longevity of marriage. Spouses who deal with conflicts constructively may view their partners’ habit of withdrawing as a lack of investment in the relationship rather than an attempt to cool down.” The study also found that, “Relationships and the quality of relationships may be more central to women’s lives than they are to men… As a result, over the course of marriage, women may be more likely to recognize that withdrawing from conflict or using destructive strategies is neither effective nor beneficial,” said Birditt. Women are more likely to evolve and improve their “fighting tactics” as the relationship progressed, as men’s fighting style generally remained the same over time. A total of 46 percent of the 373 couples that participated in the survey ultimately divorced. By no means is marriage a “walk in the park;” it is something that is worked at everyday. But, if your marriage ultimately does not work, the divorce mediation experts at YS Mediation are on hand. If you or someone you know is separating or divorcing contact a New York City divorce attorney at YS Mediation for a private and confidential consultation.
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october
2010
Staten Island, NY— Wondering why you decided to marry the hot cocktail waitress instead of the lawyer, who were dating prior to kicking back a few drinks, which as left you contemplating if it would made a difference if you ended up in divorce court or not? Well they’re may be some answers, reports The Washington Post. An interesting new study has uncovered a correlation of several occupations and the likelihood of separation and divorce. The study, published in the spring edition of the Journal of Police and Criminal Psychology, has looked into various jobs and how the said careers impact your romantic relationships. The study found the top occupations for divorce are:
1. Dancers and choreographers: 38.4 percent The top 10 occupations also included, casino workers, telephone operators, nurses and home health aides. The lowest marital break-ups included:
· Engineers: agricultural, sales and nuclear engineers. The findings didn’t reveal whether the jobs themselves caused the marriage to dissolve, or if the people who hold those types of jobs are prone to unstable relationships. Whether or not it’s the type of job you hold that leads your marriage to divorce court, everyone wants a peaceful, amicable divorce. Contact YS Mediation for a private consultation and take the first step to freedom from a typical, high cost divorce. Maintain your rights and independence.
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october
2010
New York, NY (News) - So you got married, and decided to get a dog to basically “start your family.” But now that your marriage is failing, and your splitting up your assets and property, the question has become, “Who gets the dog?” Your husband claims that a dog is “a man’s best friend,” which is the reason why he should get it; and the wife claims that she takes care of the dog so Fido should be hers, beginning the all out war for the family pet. Unlike children, pets are considered property by the U.S. judicial system, so getting custody may be harder to obtain if both spouses want the pet, according to the Associated Content. The judge may ask when the pet was purchased. If the pet was bought prior to the marriage, the partner who purchased the pet will receive ownership. Also, courts will typically place the pet in the residence, which has children, since the kids have formed a bond with the animal, and removing the pet may be detrimental to the kids. The courts will also take into consideration of who mainly took care of the pet. If you have been the main caretaker and provider of the pet, like taking them to the vet, feeding and bathing them, you will have a better chance of retaining the pet. In addition, if your pets are “show-quality” and are use for income, like competition and breeding, your chances of keeping the better also get better. But, you may have to split future income acquired through the animal. Keep all expense reports and pictures of you showing the animal for evidence in court. Lastly, the court will determine if you’re physically capable of caring for the animal. They will look to see if your home is big enough, whether it is fenced or not and if your financially able to take care of the animal. To many people their pet is their world, so when it comes to deciding who gets the family pet when the spouses divorce, it could become an all out war. Luckily, the divorce mediators at YS Mediation are here to help you and your spouse peacefully decide who gets the pet, along with the other settlements and custody agreements. Divorce mediation offers a better approach to divorce without the hefty price tag and stress. No lengthy and ugly court battles involved. Contact YS Mediation for a private consultation and take the first step to freedom from a typical, high cost divorce.
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